A writer’s write challenge that probably didn’t go where everyone else’s went.
A writing challenge that best describes me. It’s convenient timing though. I’ve been inundated in my “Christian” posts, blogs, devotions about negativity and whining people, about the power to overcome these people by just getting rid of them, putting them out of your life, get away from them. Let examine a few reasons why I personally don’t think that’s sound advice.
First, I would have no friends. Just saying.
Second, really, is that sound advice? Yes, I know there are people in the world that just need to be more thankful, should get a dose of sunshine and vitamin C. But, in extreme case those talkers, those whiners, are people with real problems. No self confidence. Let’s consider for a moment that they’ve had teenagers who have gone off the deep end. Let’s consider if those parents have made every decision possible, probable and then some and still their child is a drug addict, a narcissist and most possible some type of mental illness. Let’s consider for more than a moment the parent’s heartache, self doubt or worse yet loss of faith.
Second, is it wise advice? Wise, as in prayed over, been there done that, walk a mile in their shoes advice. Quite the opposite would be self serving advice (quit whining, you’re annoying me). This works for my kids, it should work for yours. My favorite: “have you prayed about this”. Ummm. NO! I hadn’t even considered that!
Let’s play the Jesus card for the third one. That trumps all others doesn’t it? Why did He go to the woman caught in adultery, the woman at the well? Why did He heal the blind, the lame, the lepers. The Bible doesn’t say they complained. But they were broken in spirit. Lepers were cast out in to another colony. Adulterers were stoned.
Let’s leave this with part of a parable. Jesus was asked are there many who will enter the kingdom. He replies there is a narrow gate and though many seek and not enter. They will say “Lord, Lord, open for us and He will answer and say to you, ‘I do not know you, where you are from,’ then you will begin to say, ‘We ate and drank in your presence, and You taught in our streets.’ But He will say, ‘I tell you I do not know you…’
Are you supping with your Christian friends? Judging the whinning ones, the complainers. Do you know them? Are you with them and not WITH them? But are you REALLY listening? Why are they whining? Why are they complaining? Do they need your pious airs and twelve letter Christian-eze? Or do they just need an ear? A shoulder to shoulder, real friend, one who may not understand, but will just listen. Hear the sound of heartache.